Just Listen.
Has anyone told you to just listen? They don’t need you to do anything or even respond. Your job is to just sit there and listen. Many of us, myself included, have a strong need to fix things. If I hear about a problem, I feel it’s my job to find the solution. Just...
What’s Love Got To Do With It?
Everything!!! When you get right down to it, love is everything. What would make you happy? Getting what you love of course! When are you most productive? When you’re doing what you love! When do you have the biggest smile on your face? When you are with someone you...
What It Means to Change…
Today I have beautiful blue skies here in Colorado. Yesterday I rode my bicycle up a canyon I haven’t been up for over 40 years. It was well before my diagnosis of multiple sclerosis over 32 years ago. The ride was one of the more spectacular ones I’ve been on, even...
Do You Speak Up?
Last week we wrote about the importance of taking inspired action. When you choose to take action you move forward. It’s a way to go beyond where you currently are and make a commitment in a certain direction. You are empowering yourself when you do this. But...
Hawaiian Prayer and Judgement
Last week we wrote about the power of the Hawaiian Prayer https://youcanchoose.info/why-i-use-the-hawaiian-prayer-when-im-confused/. We had a great conversation in our community group about the prayer and how helpful it can be. Another way the prayer is valuable is...
Why I Use the Hawaiian Prayer When I’m Confused
When things start to spin sideways in my head, I have two go-to tools. The first and most useful is to redirect what I'm thinking about to "What do I want?" Almost any situation can be dramatically shifted when I stop thinking about what is and lightly focus on how I...
The Courage to Say No
Quite a long time ago, Beth told me that Black women are going to lead big changes in the world. We need to look no further than the 2020 Olympic Games for evidence of that. When Simone Biles stepped back from her chance to win another gold medal, she sent a powerful...
You Don’t Need It Until You Need It
The other day, Beth and I were coming home from a nice walk with the dog. On the way back, we have to cross a wide road where traffic is a combination of cars, trucks, more trucks, and very big trucks. Most of them go faster than the posted speed limit. As we were...
Learning to Look Behind the Reflections
The way that we experience life is mostly physical. We use our external senses to know what is going on and measure our place in the world. We interact with people, we do things, we experience pleasure and pain through our five senses. But what if there are more...
Learning from the YCC Book
This past week, someone we work with posted a couple of pages from our You Can Choose book on social media. They are going through some big changes in their life and the YCC material is helping them to better understand who they are today. The simple,...
Keep Your Focus on You, not Others
This week I’ve had several conversations with people, family, and even strangers that seemed to focus on what others were thinking and feeling. As I spoke with them I wanted to interrupt to say what someone else says or thinks doesn’t matter, but what you think about...
What’s Important Then vs. Now
Years ago I remember when I went to college I couldn’t wait to graduate and go off into the world to make an impact. It seemed like there was so much to do and experience, that the town I grew up in was too small to give me the breadth of experience I wanted at that...
Perspective. Have You Taken Time To Check In With Yourself?
I just finished watching a video of a presentation we gave about how to be your own best friend. The presentation was earlier this year, and I found myself engaged in what we were talking about. When it was over, I thought about the amount of progress we’ve made since...
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