You Usually Get What You Expect
The other night Beth and I were sitting at the bar of a local restaurant. We were enjoying a drink and having an appetizer when I noticed a guy standing next to us. He’d been standing there for a while. He ordered a drink and finished it. He didn’t sit down, even...
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Contentment Scale – What’s Yours?
The other day I was walking home after going to a meeting where everything worked out wonderfully. I was enjoying the walk, thinking about how well the meeting went and in a great mood. The weather was nice. The few people out and about seemed to be having a lovely...
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Do You Ever Feel Overwhelmed?
I used to feel like a drowned rat, and now I don’t The other day, I was talking to a friend who told me about some of the challenges she's facing. She said, “There is just so much to do, and not enough time to do it." I asked if she was meditating. “I try to,” she...
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Do You Have an Automated Thought Program for Self-Judgment?
Some of what we do is automatic. We can see or hear something and know exactly how to react without a moment’s pause. The other day, I was going through an exercise thinking about an emotionally charged event in my past. Using my memory, I replayed the scenario when I...
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Feedback Is Complicated
I was thinking about feedback recently. I was trying to explore it from both the perspective of the sender and the receiver. I also wanted to take into consideration the various types of feedback. Some people offer feedback with the intent to help, and others provide...
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Do You Avoid Drama?
I hate drama. I don’t like to see people fight. I change the TV channel when people are yelling at each other. I am happiest when everyone is working together, with smiles on their faces. I also know some people love drama. They enjoy watching the housewives TV...
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Resist? It’s much easier to let go! [Really it is.]
The other day I was trying to explain to my dog how pointless it is to resist. We just came home from a walk, and he was anxious to get off the leash. He wanted to head back outside to see what was going on in the backyard. As I reached out to unhook the leash, he...
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What’s with all this gratitude and appreciation?
What’s with all this gratitude and appreciation? I know when life sucks, the last thing I want to do is be thankful for the suckiness. When I lived with depression, I wallowed in despair. If someone came up to me with a bright smile and told me to change my attitude...
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Grrrr…
As most people know now the smoke from the California fires has settled into the Bay Area for nearly a week now. It’s the worst air quality we’ve ever had in this area. What makes it doubly challenging for people who live here and enjoy the outdoors every day is we...
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Do You Know Where You Are?
The other day, I was driving home from the gym and heard someone honking their horn. I looked in my rearview mirror, and someone had obviously cut off the guy honking his horn. The two-lane road suddenly narrowed down to one, and both of these drivers wanted to be in...
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Bye Bye My Sweet Porsche – [How to Know When You’re Due for a Change]
Recently I got a call from Tony, the calm mechanic who works on my Porsche. He said my Boxster is broken. The engine failed, and it is worth nothing more than scrap metal. What???? What the heck does engine failure mean? We just had it serviced last summer! He started...
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Do You Take Time to Celebrate?
This is our 52nd weekly post! We’ve been sending out our newsletter for one full year, and it’s cause for celebration. It got us to thinking, when is something big enough to celebrate? You don't want to go around needlessly celebrating. I mean what would life be like...
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Your Thoughts Matter and You Can Choose Your Thoughts
The phrase, Your Thoughts Matter and You Can Choose Your Thoughts, is core to the You Can Choose framework. We learned our thoughts matter after spending much of our lives thinking without realizing their power. Little did we know that each judgment, worry, and...
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