You Don’t Need to Beat Yourself Up
The past weekend we offered our Law of Resistance Workshop. Ten of us worked through a bunch of exercises to understand all about the resistance we create that gets in the way of getting what we want in life.
It was a great experience and everyone learned together.
It didn’t start out that way. As many of you know, I sent out an invitation to the workshop a week or so ago. In the first e-mail, I included the wrong link so no one could sign up. Then I sent a second e-mail, and it was wrong too.
— Oh My Gosh! —
In the past, I’d have been devastated. I would have beat myself up over my failure. How hard is it to check the link before sending it out? I would have envisioned all the people who received the e-mail shaking their head as they saw my incompetence on full display.
Having lived much of my life like that, those feelings are often just below the surface. I remember the only way I knew how to handle mistakes was to beat myself up.
Since I’ve been following the principles of You Can Choose, I don’t do that anymore. Today instead of beating myself up, I recognize my mistakes, but I don’t make them personal. I realize I made a mistake and move on as quickly as I can.
After I sent the two e-mails with the errors, I fixed the problem each time and moved on. I remember asking myself, what’s the worst that could happen? You could change your opinion of me and unsubscribe from our newsletter. Not that I want you to unsubscribe, but the world wasn’t going to end because of my mistake.
I wanted to share this with you because I know I’m not the only one who’s beaten themselves up over things that seem huge in the heat of the moment.
If you find yourself there, briefly take a look at the worst case scenario. Expose it to the light and your logic. Ask yourself if the scenario is realistic or are you exaggerating? It might not be that easy when you first try it, but with practice, you can begin to see your mistakes as just something you did and learn to move on. No more beating yourself up. After all, when you beat yourself up, no one wins.
Even though I sent out two messages with big errors, no one unsubscribed and if you feel differently about me, I don’t know anything about it. That’s a win-win.