Be Kind, Choose Love, Count Your Blessings
While out for a bike ride this weekend I was struck by the beauty of our country. Where I live, we have rolling hills, beautiful trees, flowing streams, and of course amazing people. In this short post, we'd like to help you take a moment and think about all the good...
Do You Have an Automated Thought Program for Self-Judgment?
Some of what we do is automatic. We can see or hear something and know exactly how to react without a moment’s pause. The other day, I was going through an exercise thinking about an emotionally charged event in my past. Using my memory, I replayed the scenario when I...
Feedback Is Complicated
I was thinking about feedback recently. I was trying to explore it from both the perspective of the sender and the receiver. I also wanted to take into consideration the various types of feedback. Some people offer feedback with the intent to help, and others provide...
Do You Avoid Drama?
I hate drama. I don’t like to see people fight. I change the TV channel when people are yelling at each other. I am happiest when everyone is working together, with smiles on their faces. I also know some people love drama. They enjoy watching the housewives TV...
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Resist? It’s much easier to let go! [Really it is.]
The other day I was trying to explain to my dog how pointless it is to resist. We just came home from a walk, and he was anxious to get off the leash. He wanted to head back outside to see what was going on in the backyard. As I reached out to unhook the leash, he...
What’s with all this gratitude and appreciation?
What’s with all this gratitude and appreciation? I know when life sucks, the last thing I want to do is be thankful for the suckiness. When I lived with depression, I wallowed in despair. If someone came up to me with a bright smile and told me to change my attitude...
Grrrr…
As most people know now the smoke from the California fires has settled into the Bay Area for nearly a week now. It’s the worst air quality we’ve ever had in this area. What makes it doubly challenging for people who live here and enjoy the outdoors every day is we...
Do You Know Where You Are?
The other day, I was driving home from the gym and heard someone honking their horn. I looked in my rearview mirror, and someone had obviously cut off the guy honking his horn. The two-lane road suddenly narrowed down to one, and both of these drivers wanted to be in...
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Bye Bye My Sweet Porsche – [How to Know When You’re Due for a Change]
Recently I got a call from Tony, the calm mechanic who works on my Porsche. He said my Boxster is broken. The engine failed, and it is worth nothing more than scrap metal. What???? What the heck does engine failure mean? We just had it serviced last summer! He started...
Do You Take Time to Celebrate?
This is our 52nd weekly post! We’ve been sending out our newsletter for one full year, and it’s cause for celebration. It got us to thinking, when is something big enough to celebrate? You don't want to go around needlessly celebrating. I mean what would life be like...
Your Thoughts Matter and You Can Choose Your Thoughts
The phrase, Your Thoughts Matter and You Can Choose Your Thoughts, is core to the You Can Choose framework. We learned our thoughts matter after spending much of our lives thinking without realizing their power. Little did we know that each judgment, worry, and...
What is Your Relationship with Society?
I’m beginning to build a better relationship between myself and society. A relationship can be a good thing or a bad thing. It really depends on you. I think of having a relationship with a society like having a relationship with a person. It can be healthy, toxic, or...
Do You Notice What You Are Attracting?
‘Like Attracts Like’ describes how similar things are attracted to one another. It is the Law of Attraction at work. The good thing about ‘Like Attracts Like,’ is you get more of what you like. The rich get richer and if you are happy, you can be happier. The downside...
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